When I lived with my mum, life was very difficult due to her mental health issues. Home life was very up and down, and I never knew what was going to happen next. When I reached 18 I finally had the courage to leave my then abusive boyfriend who I lived with and I went to stay at mums. My mother struggled to have somebody in her house due to her mental health, it resulted in her kicking me out. I had no friends or family I could go and stay with, because of how controlling my boyfriend was at the time, I had lost pretty much everyone. I reached out to my local authority and explained to them my situation.
I was relieved to know they had a placement in a homeless hostel near me, the whole process was daunting as I had never been in that position before, but I was reassured by the housing officers that I would be placed in a safe warm place. I was given a room to myself, I was given a tour of the facilities and introduced to the other people living there. Everyone was welcoming and I was put at ease quickly.
They assigned me a support worker, who helped with pretty much everything. They taught me how to budget my money, look for work, cooking etc They encouraged me to be more independent and supported me to contact other organisations for counselling. More importantly when I opened up to my Support worker about my ex-boyfriend, she helped me recognise that it wasn’t normal to be treated that way and encouraged me to seek the relevant help, she also gave me the confidence to reach out to family members and rebuild relationships.
I spent three months in the hostel before I was moved into the community, I was placed in a shared house with other young people in the same position as me. I was relieved to know that I would still be receiving support from the organisation, with this newfound stability I was able to look for work and save money to move into my own flat. Years later I now own my own property, I finally had the courage to take the step back into education and I am in a healthy stable relationship. It took time to get to where I am now, but it would not have been possible without the team of professionals who supported me through the most difficult times of my life.
My experience of homelessness and the support I received inspired me to want to give back and help people who were in the same position as me, that is why I joined Pembrokeshire care society team in order to support those in need.